Over the course of our relationship, she offered me all of the sex education I wish I had.
Something so beautiful about the queer dating community (for millennials and older) is that we’ve passed education through friends and partners since how-to books, Netflix series and TikTok weren’t really at our disposal. This ex taught me the basics of lesbian sex, how to appropriately consent, where to watch feminist porn and even about Autostraddle! As I was watching the orgasm gap infographics flash along the screen #BLACK GAY CUM FACIAL TUMBLR SERIES# As folks of different identities, sexualities, races, ethnicities, and body sizes spoke about their first memories (or lack thereof) of sex education and pleasure, it sparked a question in me: What is my pleasure origin story? (95% of straight men have had an orgasm, 86% of lesbians, 66% of straight women), I was suddenly extremely grateful that this was merely a reminder for me. I traced a map of my initial responses, only to realize that most of these are inherently sexual or about sex.Ģ. Care and Keeping of You (you know, that American Girl book)ģ.
My “LGBTQ+ Literature and Culture” professorġ0. Sitting on my purple couch, eating popcorn and googling the Come As You Are podcast, I thought about what this origin story means for me.
